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Welcome to dearperp.org! 

A website dedicated to allowing victims of sexual abuse address perpetrators and talk about the long-term impacts of sexual assault and abuse. 

 

While people know a lot about sexual assualt and abuse, victims rarely share what happens afterwards.  Without the consequences of these abuses being widely known, we pave the way for more abuse.  We see instances of things like:

  • “Well it wouldn’t have happened if..”.  If she wasn’t on drugs, if he wasn’t gay, if she hadn’t been wearing that, if he wasn’t in prison, if she wasn’t a “tease”, "if their mother had been more responsible". 

  • “Little children don’t remember the abuse.”

  • Women who are “actually” raped do not get pregnant because their body “shuts down”.

  • “We don’t talk about family issues outside of the family.”

  • Lawyers counseling victims to settle for money and then sign a non-disclosure agreement, allowing perpetrators to hide their transgressions.

  • Lighter sentences for sex offenders.

All of these examples pinpoint a deep ignorance regarding sexual abuse and a culture that, while at best may not encourage sexual abuse, does not actively discourage it either.  Many do not understand the lifetime of suffering that victims go through even after the abuse has stopped.  Current statistics show that 1 in 4 women is a victim of sexual abuse and 94% of those victims suffer from PTSD.  More women suffer from PTSD than men, according to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs.  Those children who don't "remember" their abuse? They have a mental illness called dissociation.  People with dissociation can feel disconnected from their thoughts, feelings, memories, and surroundings. They can loose a  sense of identity and struggle with the perception of time.  They do have memories of their abuse, they just can't access them because of their dissociation.  Sexual abuse is wreaking havoc on our society and yet we are silent about it.  

Not only is there ignorance about the mental health effects, but the law is as well.  Rapists are serving zero time in jail in some cases because their victim is a native american. Zero days.  The cost of causing life long mental, physical and emotional damage to someone is absolutely free!  A CEO convicted of having over 13,000 images of child pornography, child and toddler rape, and bestiality will only serve 210 days in jail!  Why?  Well 210 days is all the law will afford in his state for this crime, that's the max!  This means he will serve one day for every 61.9 victims, but each victim gets a life sentence.  The ultimate insult to victims being the deal Jeffrey Epstein was able to negotiate for himself in his 2008 conviction.  The reduction of many girls down to only two and the charges lowered from child sexual abuse to procuring a prostitute are just the beginning of a long list of privileges afforded to this wealthy pedophile!

By letting victims share their pain and show the extent of their suffering, we can reveal the true impact sexual abuse is having on our society and begin to change the culture and laws that are creating more victims.  

If you or a loved one has suffered from:

  • Adult Rape

  • Child Sexual Abuse

  • College Rape

  • Date Rape

  • Elderly Rape

  • Handicapped Rape

  • Inmate Rape

  • LGBTQ+ Rape

  • Military Sexual Abuse

  • Partner Rape

  • Pornography

  • Sex Trafficking

  • Sexual Harassment

Please consider joining our site and telling your story.  Your story can stop sexual abuse!

Not a victim?  We have ways to help.  Check out our Education and Initiatives sections to learn more about sexual abuse and find out how you can help.

Our mission at Dearperp is to end sexual abuse, but we cannot do that if no one gets involved and shares their story or makes their voice heard.   

"Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." ~ Elie Wiesel

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