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TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK
Welcome to dearperp
breaking the silence on sexual violence.
As victims of sexual violence ourselves, we are keenly aware of the detrimental after-effects. We unwillingly became a member of a secret club of approximately 22 million U.S. victims (1) who remain largely silent about the violence they have experienced and its effects on their life. We understand why that silence exists, but remaining silent will not help victims or prevent sexual violence.
"Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." ~ Elie Wiesel
We've created a website were victims of sexual violence can write a letter to share their experiences and the devastation that follows anonymously. By letting victims share their pain and show the extent of their suffering, we can reveal the true impact sexual violence is having on our society and begin to change the culture and policies that are creating more victims.
If you or a loved one has been a victim of:
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Many do not understand the lifetime of suffering that victims go through after the assault is over or the abuse has stopped. It is estimated by Rainn (2020) that "1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime" (2) That's an estimated 26,166,666 (or 26.1 million (3) women who are current victims of sexual violence in the US. That does not include men who are also victims of sexual violence. That does not include numbers outside of the U.S. either. The number of victims is egregious.
While people know a lot about sexual violence, victims rarely share what happens afterwards. One mental health statistic shows that 94% of victims of sexual violence suffer from PTSD and, according to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (2020) (4), more women suffer from PTSD than men. Without the consequences of sexual violence being widely known, the cycle of sexual violence is perpetuated.
We hear instances of things like:
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Child Sexual Abuse
Military Sexual Abuse
Our quest at Dearperp is to end sexual violence, but we cannot do that without your voice. Please consider joining our site and telling your story. Not a victim? You can still help! Check out our Initiative section to see how you can get involved.
BREAK THE SILENCE ON SEXUAL VIOLENCE
All of these examples point to deep cultural ignorance on sexual violence and public policies that to not deter sexual violence properly. Sexual violence is wreaking havoc on our society and we cannot be silent anymore. Here is a sampling of what victims may suffer from:
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Disinhibited Attachment Disorder
Drug and alcohol abuse
This list barely scrapes the surface of what life is like for victims of sexual violence.
If you or a loved one are a victim of sexual violence, please consider joining our site and telling your story. Your story will be published with anonymity and we do not store records that attach members to their stories for you privacy protection. We know sharing your story can be scary and we want you to feel safe so you can be honest about your struggles.
Do you have a family member that was convicted for sexual violence? You are a victim too! Please consider joining and sharing your story. Your privacy is important and your story will be published without any identity. Help us break the cycle of sexual violence.
We don't just need victims to speak up, we need everyone to make ending sexual violence a priority. We have ways to help even if you are not a victim. Check out our Initiatives section to learn more about sexual violence and find out how you can help.
Thank you for visiting dearperp.org! We hope you will join us in the fight to end sexual violence!